(Firstly- Betsy, are you still blogging? How’s everything going with your little one? We need updates!)
I warned my husband in the morning that I’d read that even patients whose husband don’t have sperm are told to have sex after the insemination.
I arrived on time. Receptionist spotted that I was alone and asked if they should rather wait for my husband to arrive. I told them he was going to come-to collect me-but he had a very hectic work day so he didn’t have much time. She didn’t sound convinced, bless her, so I reiterated that I was ok with proceeding.
Doctor called me in. Asked if my husband was parking the car. I said no. He asked if I’d driven myself there. I told him I’d used Uber (Actually, I forgot I’d used Taxify) and that my husband was coming to take me home. He asked if we should wait for my husband to arrive.
See, I’m apparently not like the women in the forums. They feel that it’s not supportive for my husband not to be at any appointment-though he was there for retrieval and for transfer. But we need the money he makes from working. And I am totally fine going alone. I really don’t need that kind of support. I don’t need him there to count follicles. I really don’t. Though I would have preferred it if he didn’t have crisis meetings yesterday for the insemination. We know he’ll always be there or pregnancy ultrasounds, for labour etc, so why not save the time off? (Yes, still living in hope.)
So after convincing the doctor that “No, my emotional state is just fine without him here,”” we went ahead. He wanted me to hold the sample but my hands were too cold so he kept it warm and prepped one handed.
Speculum went in ok and he told me my cervical mucus was great. (NOT a conversation I expected!) and after a lot of pressure, we were done. He said he expected it to be more difficult but I was definitely ovulating because my cervix was low and open-which is why it was easy to insert the catheter.
And he suggested we make love.
Which led to last night, lying next to my husband, feeling the abdominal pain starting, and wondering if I should just forget about the ‘suggestion’ till he says, “Ok. You said we must have sex. Are you ready?” Hahaha!
Yeah, not particularly romantic. I actually can’t imagine having sex with my wife when I know someone else’s semen is in there. It just feels weird for some reason! But hey, he wants me pregnant so we did the deed.
Now we wait 12 days.
I’ll start testing at home on day 10..or maybe 9. But I’ll try be good and wait till day 10.
PS. I’m on 1 Cyclogest a day. Had horrible pain in the night. Still uncomfortable, full feeling, pain when I laugh or cough or walk. But nothing unbearable anymore.